I got another $1200/month deal today, this time for leadership coaching. MRR go BRR.
I haven't done leadership coaching in a long time, wasn't planning to, didn't advertise it. The need just arose in a conversation with a marketing client and I went for it.
Something absolutely magical happens to your world when you realize - when you SEE - that opportunities are everywhere.
Oh, how many times have I read in books and heard gurus say that money was just lying around and all you needed to do was pick it up. It sounded like absolute bullshit. To be honest, it still does. Only somehow this has become my lived experience.
I'm not rich (yet), but my business covers my bills with a few work hours per week and I have complete confidence that I can grow it, or even rebuild it if it collapses.
Of course it's not really that simple. I wish I could explain how to get there in a tweet or even in an article. But it is a matter of skill. It's not one skill, it's a combination of skills, none of which are taught at any school or university, but these skills can be learned and they can be taught and they can be practiced and they aren't any harder than things you've already learned how to do. Definitely easier than learning how to code.
You don't need to be an extravert, you don't need to be particularly good with people, you don't need charisma, or to be handsome. It helps if you're a bit smarter than average, but even that isn't strictly necessary.
You do need to want it though. Becase this freedom comes at a cost - in fact you'll probably need to die a little death. You'll need to let go of a whole host of things you believe in, you'll need to humbly accept that you don't quite know as much as you thought you did, and that other people are very very different from you. You'll also need to accept that you can never, under any circumstances, with any skill level, change other people. You'll need to see them as they are, and accept them as they are.
And if you've never experienced a small death (or ego collapse) before, you're going to resist it with everything you've got. I actually needed to lose all of my savings, almost break up with my wife, and find myself with my back against the wall looking with desperation at my vanishing bank account before I was ready to learn.
If there is a way to transform your life without having your head bashed repeatedly into the ground by your own rigid ego, I haven't found it. But it does get easier with time.
It gets easier.
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Eli, I was going through a rough time when a mentor told me, “Norm. No matter how bad things seem. They’re gonna get worse.” I laughed and that was the point. In hindsight, nothing lasts forever. Not the bad. Not the good. But, things do get better. Eventually.
A lot of stuff you see is like "trust the process". But its hard to when you never see results day in day out. Typically the only thing you ever see results with in a reasonable time frame is Employment. You do something, you get rewarded. It's very hard to have the faith to break away from that do-something-get-reward employment cycle.
In those dark hours for - what changed? Can you pick up on what cognitively changed?